“I don’t understand why he/she acted that way.”
“I thought he/she was this way but he/she turned out another way.”
“He/she used to be this way… but now he/she changed and I don’t know why…”
Heard those before?
The world is confusing. People are confusing and confused with one another. They say one thing and do another.
Are they your friend or your foe?
I don’t know.
What I do know is by understanding human nature and removing “social blindspots” into your life, life gets easier because you understand why we do, what we do.
Bad people live among us
In life, manipulators, sociopaths and psychopaths… they live among us.
And they will wreak havoc into our life, that is if we let them.
Sadly most people find out too late, having themselves drained of emotional (and sometimes financial) damage.
Some never even recover from it. They carry their heavy heart to the grave, filled with pain, sorrow and regrets engraved.
Bad people are not your friends.
They are your enemies.
Think about it…
We're social creatures of the people we keep.
It's our very bonds with others that determine our survival.
Knowing why people do what they do is the best skill we can learn.
Without it, we can't get very far, no matter how skilled we are.
Human Nature IS a form of Language:
Human Nature is the Language of Us, that drives all of us.
In school, we are taught different languages like English, French or Spanish etc.
But why aren’t we taught about ourselves?
Isn’t that more important?
6 Costs of NOT Learning Human Nature
If you don't get a firm grip on human nature, you're basically missing out on a lot of what makes life smoother, more rewarding and less confusing.
Here’s why:
1. Knowing Yourself
If you don't understand what makes people tick, starting with yourself, you're going to keep tripping over the same issues.
It's like walking in the dark; you need to know your own mind to navigate life without constantly bumping into things or tripping over and hurting yourself.
2. Getting Along with Others
Understanding human nature helps you get why people do what they do.
You become better at reading people and relating to them.
If you skip out on this, expect a lot of awkward moments and misunderstandings.
3. Influencing People
Knowing about human nature is like having a toolkit for persuading and motivating others.
Without it, you're basically winging it and hoping for the best, which isn't a great strategy, especially at work or in leadership positions.
4. Solving Disagreements
If you can't figure out where someone's coming from, you're going to have a hard time sorting out conflicts.
It's like trying to solve a puzzle without looking at the picture on the box.
5. Reaching Your Goals
To hit your targets in life, you've got to navigate your own quirks and understand others'.
Otherwise, it's like sailing without a map—you might eventually get somewhere, but it'll take way, way longer (and sometimes never) and you will not like where you end up.
6. Keeping Up with Changes
The world's always changing, and if you're clueless about the human side of things, you'll struggle to keep up.
It's like using an old and outdated map from 1991 to navigate a modern city that's constantly evolving.
After all, you wouldn’t want to be left behind, would you?
It's about making things easier for yourself, getting where you want to go, and having deeper connections with one another.
Keep it simple, learn about what makes us all tick, and you'll be setting yourself up for a smoother (and eye-opening) ride.
With human nature in your toolkit, you don’t have to struggle anymore.
Know yourself. Know others. Get what you want…
…and remember, Human Nature is the language of us, that drives all of us.
- sol
P.S. Share with your close friends who can benefit from learning human nature — It’s important for them and you can learn together.
Appreciate all of you.
My husband and I got officially divorced today. This story gave me more depth into the separation. Thank you.
I’ve always thought what drives human behaviour is that we need to have certain needs met. Tony Robbins talks about the 6 human needs and I see a lot of merit in them (certainty, variety, love/connection, significance, growth, and contribution are the words he uses I also add in authenticity)