Love this and it’s something I think about a lot. So often people achieve a goal at the expense of something else that really matters, like their family or health, and find that the cost outweighed the benefit. I think it’s important to have balanced goals, that it goals in multiple areas of life, to ensure desire and effort is appropriately balanced. I also think it’s important for goals to align with core values, and most of all, the core of who you are and how you are meant to express yourself. I think we all have a seed of potential inside of us and our job is to cultivate that seed, which has its own purpose and desires. The trouble is too often we prioritize the desire for certain outcomes over the desire for an authentic pathway, and if we’re not traveling the authentic path, we won’t find happiness. It’s cliche but life really is all about the journey and I always have to remind myself that results are more an accumulation of consistent actions rather than something to strive for in themselves.
Hey Suzanne! I completely agree with your perspective.
Achieving goals at the expense of our core values or well-being often leads to imbalance and long-term dissatisfaction. I find that the key is balancing goals across various aspects of life ensures that we nurture all parts of ourselves.
And yes, it's about cultivating our potential and enjoying the journey, not just the outcomes. Thank you for sharing your detailed thoughts! 🧡
Thank you for your your reflection. I do have a subtle critique. I don’t think it’s helpful to focus on ones desirability. Honestly, I feel very desirable. I think there are a lot of people pleasers out there that focus too much on whether they’re desirable or not. I don’t give a shit about whether I’m desirable. I feel very attractive and desirable. My challenge is to figure out how to align with my deepest desires and values, which is creating alignment between what I do best – which is connecting people and creating safe spiritual spaces to build community, and being able to support myself in this way. I want to get paid to do the thing I do best. I need to be living in Community, finding ways to invite people into that community, without compromising my own needs for silence, solitude, and spiritual inner work.
I find that it’s great to hear that you feel confident and focused on aligning with your true desires and values. Also, creating safe spiritual spaces and building a community where you can thrive while supporting yourself is a really meaningful goal.
I do think that balancing community living with your need for solitude and inner work is crucial too, how do you envision starting to build this community while maintaining your personal boundaries and well-being?
I think Ralph Waldo Emerson sums it up nicely:
It’s not the Destination; It’s the journey.
When we reach our destination or goals, we often start looking for the next thing immediately, as the journey is more fun than the destination.
“The journey is what brings us happiness, not the destination” - Dan Millman
Love this and it’s something I think about a lot. So often people achieve a goal at the expense of something else that really matters, like their family or health, and find that the cost outweighed the benefit. I think it’s important to have balanced goals, that it goals in multiple areas of life, to ensure desire and effort is appropriately balanced. I also think it’s important for goals to align with core values, and most of all, the core of who you are and how you are meant to express yourself. I think we all have a seed of potential inside of us and our job is to cultivate that seed, which has its own purpose and desires. The trouble is too often we prioritize the desire for certain outcomes over the desire for an authentic pathway, and if we’re not traveling the authentic path, we won’t find happiness. It’s cliche but life really is all about the journey and I always have to remind myself that results are more an accumulation of consistent actions rather than something to strive for in themselves.
Hey Suzanne! I completely agree with your perspective.
Achieving goals at the expense of our core values or well-being often leads to imbalance and long-term dissatisfaction. I find that the key is balancing goals across various aspects of life ensures that we nurture all parts of ourselves.
And yes, it's about cultivating our potential and enjoying the journey, not just the outcomes. Thank you for sharing your detailed thoughts! 🧡
Thank you for your your reflection. I do have a subtle critique. I don’t think it’s helpful to focus on ones desirability. Honestly, I feel very desirable. I think there are a lot of people pleasers out there that focus too much on whether they’re desirable or not. I don’t give a shit about whether I’m desirable. I feel very attractive and desirable. My challenge is to figure out how to align with my deepest desires and values, which is creating alignment between what I do best – which is connecting people and creating safe spiritual spaces to build community, and being able to support myself in this way. I want to get paid to do the thing I do best. I need to be living in Community, finding ways to invite people into that community, without compromising my own needs for silence, solitude, and spiritual inner work.
Viola! Thank you for your honest feedback. 🫶🏻
I find that it’s great to hear that you feel confident and focused on aligning with your true desires and values. Also, creating safe spiritual spaces and building a community where you can thrive while supporting yourself is a really meaningful goal.
I do think that balancing community living with your need for solitude and inner work is crucial too, how do you envision starting to build this community while maintaining your personal boundaries and well-being?