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May 5Liked by sol s⊙therland 🔸

I loved this article ! Thank you 🤩

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Thank you for reading Laura 🙏🏻

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May 8Liked by sol s⊙therland 🔸

Fear is usually people’s compass through life, the most powerful emotion they have trouble to overcome. I usually tell my coachees when fear comes to acknowledge it and evaluate what kind of real danger they are in, which is none for their fear is generally a reflex reaction to a childhood emotional danger that no longer exists. Then I tell them to picture their fear as a small child coming to help and ask them to say thanks to that child for coming, that his help is no longer requested in that specific situation and that he can go back home. Unless we are confronted with direct violence, we are never ever in danger and it is important to remember it at all times, especially with the medias all around the world blowing fear 24/7. Lots of love to everyone.

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Geraldine, that's a really insightful way to approach fear—seeing it as a protective reaction from our younger selves and acknowledging it with gratitude before letting it go.

It’s a gentle and compassionate method that can help people reframe their experiences of fear and reduce its impact on their lives. I like it, thank you for sharing it!

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May 7Liked by sol s⊙therland 🔸

To cultivate self-awareness, practice mindfulness by checking in with yourself regularly throughout the day. Notice your emotions as they arise and reflect on what triggered them. Journaling can also help identify patterns in your emotional responses. This is a great article Sol.

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Tinashe, "Notice your emotions as they arise and reflect on what triggered them." well said! Journalling really helps with that :)

Thank you for reading, Tinashe.

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May 5Liked by sol s⊙therland 🔸

Thank you, Sol. It's not often this difficult, but lately I've had to work very hard on the "Be The Pond" part. So your article this morning was a timely, comforting, and very welcome ripple across the surface of the pond. TY!

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Aww PS! Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m glad I’m able to serve you in a timely fashion too. God bless and have a lovely week ahead 🤍

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May 5Liked by sol s⊙therland 🔸

Insightful piece, Sol! Each strategy is a new journey in itself.

As I've learned in my journey of befriending emotion, these strategies are practiced daily, even when the emotions may not be turbulent, so that when they are turbulent, navigating them comes easy.

Oh and LOVE the quote that you shared in the ending ❤️

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Ashi, I love the way you talk about emotions. I love that quote too, hits you so good 🧡

Thank you for reading 🙏🏻

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May 5Liked by sol s⊙therland 🔸

This is often something I struggle with. I know what I SHOULD do, I have all the tools, but when I am blind sided I sometimes go into a tailspin.

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Lee, and that’s okay. We are all humans at the end of the day.

What strategy do you think would be able to help you prevent similar events of being blind sided happening again?

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May 6Liked by sol s⊙therland 🔸

What helped me immensely were the words of British Raconteur, Quentin Crisp. To paraphrase...more trouble is caused when we intervene in the lives of our friends thinking we know best. So now I try not to judge my friends by my set of values.

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That’s a wise approach. Something for me to learn as well, thank you for sharing Lee 😄

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Bethel! Thank you for taking the time to read. I appreciate you. If there’s anything I can help you with, do let me know.

Cheers!

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